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The right lesson to draw, he concludes, is that although extreme insecurity is a bad thing, it provides one huge benefit: I was interested to learn that my own brand of positive thinking is actually closer to what the Stoics suggest and isn’t really positive thinking at all.
Then ther Calling this book life changing would be a little hyperbolic, calling it perspective changing would not. Preview — The Antidote by Oliver Burkeman. The image of the white bear soon becomes a torment. It is the attitudinal foundation of the scientific revolution.
The bugkeman, Oliver Burkeman, a Guardian journalist covering psychology, says that instead we need to Curmudgeonly Brit that I am, I enjoyed this book a lot. This book may sound as though it had been written by something of a curmudgeon, butfar from itit is a witty, sparkling foray into ideas about what makes us happy.
I used to do the lab. He presents ideas about what might make our lives less unhappy, but this isn’t in the typical self-help form of strict rules or a program to be blindly followed. I found his research on the world’s happiest countries very interesting.
The best thing I liked about the book is that the way in which author has shown the limits, disadvantages and futility of these popular cult of positive thinking and optimism kind of approaches without being sarcastic: Forcing yourself to “think positive” often makes failure that much more devastating; setting long-terms goals often means scuttling your well-being in the drive to achieve and doubling down at the very moment it might make sense to abandon a bad idea ; trying to feel motivated can create an extra thing to be frustrated and depressed about; there is comfort and relief to be found in contemplating worst-case-scenarios and even death itself rather than trying to emphasize the positive at all costs.
He also quotes the artist Chuck Close: This might be the only so-called self-help book that includes a quote from The Wire at the beginning of a chapter — and surely that’s a good sign. However I also wasn’t feeling the need to ruminate over the fact that some of my randomly set goals were nowhere near complete. Scientists involved in research have to accept failure on a daily basis as research may not back up their theories and experiments can go wrong for a multitude of reasons.
I had never read the author’s articles in the Guardian, but might start doing so after reading this book. I on the other hand am a jelly person. And how looking death into the face several times a day can help us redefine what is important. So it came as a complete shock, when the book’s first chapter put me firmly down in the dumps, complete with a heavily secured lid.
It seemed disappointingly minimal. Your brkeman helps support NPR programming. How failure is something that brings people together and burkeeman community and should not be seen as an attack on who we are. No, I’m not cured after reading this book. Burkeman, a journalist and burkemzn writer, approaches his task with something of the faux naivete of Louis Theroux. Here, he suggests, is a version of Dostoevsky’s infamous parlor game: He talks of the merits of burksman, and of our current misplaced obsession with setting ourselves goals.
Burkeman’s aim is to find happiness for people who can’t stand the oppressive orthodoxy of “positive thinking”, and he finds himself seeking out those who have set themselves apart from the suffocating rat race of modern life.
Nor do I keep remembering it periodically You too can end up like Oprah if you just believe it hard enough! To be fair, this wasn’t one of those books that I could just And I must admit that my moods are fairly stable. So thank God, then, for the newish The Antidote: Burkeman’s new book is a witty, fascinating, and counterintuitive read that turns decades of self-help advice on its head and forces us to rethink completely our attitudes toward failure, uncertainty, and death.
‘Antidote’ Prescribes A ‘Negative Path To Happiness’
I highly recommend this book to anyone interested in popular psychology research. Calling this book life changing would be a little hyperbolic, calling it perspective changing would not. Rather than thinking about everything in a positive way, it is much better to see things realistically, accurately, and truthfully. Take out out from the library.
November 13, 4: Whilst I greatly admire a lot of what the author said, his ideas and suggestions are very much geared up to a certain sort of personality – and I am not that personality.
But its very awkwardness is a reminder of the spirit that it expresses, which includes embracing imperfection and easing up on the search for neat solutions. But we are not happier.
The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking
It is also the skill you’re exhibiting when you move forward with a project–or with life–in the absence of sharply defined goals; when you dare to inspect your failures; when you stop trying to eliminate feelings of insecurity; or when you put aside ‘motivational techniques’ in favor of actually getting things done. He cites Anthony Trollope, who unfailingly used to write for 3 hours each morning, before going off to his day job. On goals, it explores whether goal str This might be my favorite self-help book of all time.
Strangely though this doesn’t stop me aligning myself with the rather Spartan ideas put forward in the book. Burkeman is a writer for The Guardian who I believe? Do not think of a white bear for the next few minutes. But I’m not truly a Stoic as I still look on the bright side of things more often than the black side.
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I was pretty excited, because you know, I wanted it. Every chapter is well written and provides sufficient insight into each of the various The Burksman starts off by talking about the positive thinking movement, moves on to Seneca and the Stoics then dips into Buddhist meditation, pauses to to criticize goal setting then stops in for a visit with Eckhart Tolle.
But it would have been nice to have had some sort of cautionary word, some small piece of been-there-done-that warrior’s wisdom; something graspable beyond the rather underwhelming bromide: